LOVE AND SELF-CARE

It depends on how you react and give meaning to it. But in my opinion, not all men can be like what people expect them to be. They all have different traits and qualities, they have flaws too. There are types of guys who'll stay during arguments, and there will be some who need some alone time. It's normal to be disappointed with your loved one cuz nobody's perfect in this world. Trust me, everyone dear to you can disappoint you anytime. We can't live without frustration, disappointment, and getting hurt. If you're looking for someone better (a perfect partner), then you're not looking for a living creature at all. Nobody can love so perfectly, not all people can always be pleasing and exciting. Every single person on this planet still needs to grow and learn. You cannot expect perfection or precision from any guy or girl. Not all relationships are always butterflies and rainbows. It's real, it's hard, and it needs patience, understanding, commitment, and effort.

They're asking for time because they need to figure things out. He might ignore you because he feels ashamed of himself and needs self-reflection. He's not fine and needs some time to figure things out. Also, he needs time to cool off because he doesn't want to burst on you and hurt your feelings with his words and worsen your mood. And whenever they're ready to speak, they will surely have an open conversation with you. Instead of you being angry at him for taking his time, try to be considerate and understanding also. If some things are broken, try to fix them, and always TRY AGAIN. It's all about not giving up if you want to maintain a long-lasting relationship with each other. And most importantly, it's best to forgive, it makes things feel at ease.

This is a fact, you won't always be his only priority, he has his own goals in his life too. You're just here to support him and be by his side no matter what happens, and vice versa.

You shouldn't expect to gain more from your loved one just for your satisfaction and assurance. Love is all about sacrificing, understanding, and giving without expecting anything in return. It's about considering other people's feelings and not only yours. 'Cause if you gain all the things you want in your life, you become spoiled and hunger for more.

Comparing isn't healthy either, like:

“I want him to be like this, I want him to treat me like that."

“The other girls are so lucky 'cause they have perfect boyfriends. I wish mine is like that too.”

It's not right, you should be contented with what you have, at least be grateful that someone loves you for you.

And if they wanna break up with you, they'll just totally be straightforward. He won't even try to tell you that he needs some time if he loses interest in you. He will just simply ghost you.

Instead of impatiently waiting for him to come back, try to focus on yourself as well, and give yourself some self-love. There's no need to worry about giving alone time to someone. As long as he loves you, there's nothing to worry about anything at all. Overthinking will just make things worse. Negativity corrupts the mind. You should also avoid people giving you negative advice, it's not healthy for you. Believe in what you think is right.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no records of wrongs.

LOVE bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.

I just wanna share my thoughts 😅

Anyway, good luck with your relationship, I wish you the best! 👍